The power of saying no

How often are we in a position where we want to say no to something or someone but end up doing the opposite? If the answer to this is that happens many times, it will certainly benefit us to try and say “no” more often. 


Firstly, let’s diminish the myth around this word. This doesn’t make us selfish, nor does it mean that we don’t want to help others. In fact, it doesn’t mean that we want to be honest. By saying “no” more often to things that don’t excite us, we free up time for new things that make us improve. Let’s ponder on how many habits we’ve imposed on ourselves and in our daily lives, because we’re not used to choosing “no” as an answer. Let’s look at the practical benefits of the word no below.

  1. The power of “no” offers us time

How many times are we put in a position where we spend time in activities that don’t please? We find ourselves having agreed to something either for conventional reasons, or because we think must and don’t have the ability to refuse. Let’s think about how much happier we would be if we spend our time on things we liked. By saying “no”, we free up time and excitement to fill our day with your own desires.

  1. The power of “no” sets boundaries with your loved ones

We often feel the need to satisfy everyone around us. This action, although it has a positive force, it can prove to be harmful. We start by saying “no” to those close to us so we can apply it to our wider circle. This way, we communicate better and more effectively what we want and need. By saying “no” more often, we set and honor our boundaries.

  1. The power of “no” helps us appreciate the power of “yes”

If we had to make a list of the times we’ve said “yes” and “no”, which column would be the fullest? If we see that the “yes” column has the most ticks, let’s reconsider whether we liked and enjoyed every activity the same. Ideally, in the “yes” list we want to do what suits us and gives us the impetus to be productive. Objectively, this is not always easy. Therefore, by saying “no” more often, we can appreciate the things we say “yes” to and end up satisfying us the most.

  1. The power of “no” teaches us courage, not selfishness

If we share the concept that we’re labeled as selfish by saying “no”, let’s try to turn it into courage. It’s not selfish to show appreciation for our time. Simultaneously, it’s not necessary nor possible for others to always be happy with what we do for them. It takes courage to say “no” and we owe it to ourselves. 

Let’s try it in small and eminent decisions so we can see the positive effect it has right away. Going forward we can try to apply it to bigger decisions in our lives. It’s important to diminish the myth of selfishness and allow ourselves to have courage and boldness when needed.

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